Main Street Cafe: Nice Talk versus Nasty Talk, What’s the Perfect Ratio
Ever thought about all the nasty things said throughout the day and what it takes to overcome all that negativity? Well, someone has and here's what they found.
According to a relationship expert, the ratio is five-to-1. For every one negative comment that's said it takes five positive comments to basically equal things out.
If you would like to read more about the study, here's a link.
Why I'm bringing this up is because I recently learned that there's an actual day each year (June 1) that's designated as 'Say Something Nice Day.'
The purpose of the day is to fight back against bullying and what's happening all across society today - which is the lack of politeness.
If you've spent any time on social media lately you know exactly what I'm talking about. It's way too easy to say (or write) something nasty towards someone else.
I compare it to throwing a grenade. You "throw" what you have to say and then hide behind your phone or computer to watch the carnage unfold.
Granted, social media hasn't been entirely bad. It has given us a way to reconnect with family and friends.
But it's also given those "Negative Nellys", as my Grandma used to say, an opportunity to spread their hate.
The topic of politics is the perfect example. Mention something political on Facebook and see what happens.
Half will agree with what you have to say, the other half will venomously attack you or possibly even unfriend you - all because you expressed your opinion.
Whatever happened to compromise and hearing each other out? Nowadays it's either "my way or the highway."
So the next time you decide to "let loose" on someone by spewing negative comments, think back to the five-to-one ratio. - it takes five positives for every one negative.
So I guess my grandma was right - if you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all.